We got married when we were both 22. I have no idea what possessed up to get married so young. I think we both wanted to be "grown up" so bad that we rushed through our courtship and hurtled into marriage. I put the blame of that on me, I wanted to be married SO badly and I told my husband so. But really, he never should have asked me that early and I never should have said yes. We had so much growing up to do and it caused so many issues in our marriage.
We were married for just over a year when I (finally) got pregnant. I say finally, because we had been trying for over 9 months. So marriage wasn't enough, we had to add kids to that. A daughter and 4 years later we also had our son. I am not saying that's when the trouble started because I think we were a bit doomed to begin with, but that it when the trouble escalated.
I was at home with 2 kids, my husband was out trying to build his company and we drifted apart. We became 2 separate people too proud to ask each other for help. I didn't need him and he didn't want to help me. It should have ended there....but it didn't. We had a few rough years after that before we hit rock bottom. And that's when we started our road up together.
For the past few years we have been working on our marriage. Our marriage had been so broken that it took both of us to pick up the pieces together, and I am so thankful that we did. I am so in love with my husband, it is almost nauseating. I look forward to seeing him after work, I love our little date nights, and our mini dates. I love working around the house and the yard with him. I love that we share soccer as our favorite sport to play and watch. We just love to be together and I couldn't be happier about it. He is a better father to the kids, I am a better mother. I am an amazing wife, and he is the best husband a woman can ask for.
I am thankful that we had such hard time together, because it really has made our marriage stronger. We are grateful to have each other and we never take each other for granted anymore. We work together as a unit on everything and I wouldn't want it any other way. This morning he surprised me with 14 roses and I have planned a weekend away for just the two of us. We are just going to Banff, but we have the 2 days to ourselves, and we are going back up the gondola that he proposed on!
I never thought that marriage was going to be like this, so hard, so lonely, and then so fulfilling and joyful. I wish I could tell the world how amazing marriage can be if you just work on it together. We know now that we can make it through anything.
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